Counselling & Supervision with Jacqui Bird

Registered MBACP (Acred) Counsellor
07775 794 130

Jacqui Bird Counselling and Supervision in Thirsk, York, Leeds and the surrounding areas

Psychosexual Therapy (PST)

Sexual problems may be the first sign of a relationship difficulty, or there may be issues which have always been a concern for a while.

Sex therapy is a specialised form of counselling intended to support couples and individuals. Sex is usually an enjoyable and important part of a healthy, respectful couple relationship, however when someone experiences a sexual problem they may hide the problem due to feeling too embarrassed or ashamed to talk about it , they may fear talking about it to their partner and as a result begin to avoid any closeness or intimacy. The beauty of talking to someone trained is that they are used to talking about these difficulties, psychosexual therapist's are specially trained to help you feel at ease, to remove any blocks to communication and to support you in overcoming the problem.

It is not uncommon for people to experience sexual problems at some point in their lives. There are many factors that contribute to sexual problems, our lives are constantly changing and this can bring many stressors, work or family pressures, a new baby, step family relationships, anxiety and depression, illness or other medical problems all can contribute to sexual problems.

I work with couples and individuals of any sexual orientation, whether or not they are married, in a civil partnership, living together or planning to live together or marry. I aim to encourage people to have open conversations, to work together and bring back into their lives the pleasure the fun and the love they want.

Following some comfortable talking an assessment will take place to determine whether or not it is necessary for me to design a treatment programme for you. The treatment program is aimed at helping you to meet the goals you want to achieve. My model of therapy will mainly be cognitive behavioural (CBT) which is known to be effective in supporting people to achieve their goals; CBT will challenge negative thoughts and fears and help you to believe in yourself, to change your thought processing so that you feel more positive.

Other models of therapy will also be integrated into the program those may include:- Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing (EMDR) this is a powerful technique which works like rapid eye movement sleep to help people process distressing memories. It is especially useful in managing the consequences of trauma, distressing life events, phobias, depression and anxiety. It has been known to be very useful in Psychosexual therapy.

I will set agreed tasks with you to carryout in the comforts of your own home and will encourage you to relax and enjoy the program, returning to the next session with feedback which I will support you with by asking you what you found helpful or difficult. You will not be rushed or pressured in any way to achieve your goal. But indeed supported from start to finish.

Problems people bring to psychosexual therapy include:-

  • loss of sexual desire
  • painful intercourse
  • difficulties with orgasm
  • arousal disorders
  • erectile dysfunction
  • premature or delayed ejaculation
  • sexual difficulties following abuse
  • general breakdown in a couple's relationship
  • not being able to achieve penetrative sex
  • fear of sex
  • menopause
  • pregnancy and postnatal sex
  • sexuality and illness
  • sex avoidance
  • poor body image relating to intimacy.

Are you experiencing any of the following?

  • Loneliness
  • Bereavement
  • Relationship difficulties
  • Communication problems
  • Conflict
  • Separation or divorce
  • Sadness, hurt or anger
  • Frustration, confusion or despair
  • Stress, anxiety or depression
  • Mood changes
  • Bullying
  • A change of family situation or life stage
  • A feeling of rejection
  • Difficulties living with chronic pain, critical illness or disability

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